Parents wants the best for their children.This is why they make sacrifices for them.However,some parents go an extra mile to make all the decisions for their children,thinking they are building them only to destroy them.
        Take for instance,parents who choose friends for their children.Or parents who put pressure on their children to attain higher grades than another person's child.Their argument may be based on the notion that all children are be equal,therefore,their children must pass too .This leaves behind the children wondering what is wrong with them.Eventually,they despair as their parents try hard to make decisions on how will they make them pass.

        Some parents decide their children's leisure activities,preventing them them from utilizing their talents.Others do not allow their children to be exposed to the word beyond home.They do so in order to prevent them from socialing,getting outside the house and watching television among other activities.All these led to dependent-minded,insecure children with no confidence with herself or himself.
        Another thing is that some parents even decide for their children the kind of career they should take.For some it is because they want better future for their children.Others want their children to live their (parents') unaccomplished dreams.
        Children should be allowed to be the person they want to be.If only all of us were allowed to be who we wanted to be and to explore the world around us,then our nation would have countless authentic youngsters pursuing their dreams.The same dreams that some parents may think are for losers.
         In my view,although parents know what is good for us ,they should allow us to choose what is best for ourselves.

       Anafahamika kama Abdu Ssekalala,mwanafunzi wa Computing and Information Technology katika chuo kikuu cha Makerere nchini Uganda.Umri wake ni miaka ishirini na mbili (22).
       Utajiri wake huu wa kupindukia ameupata kutokana na ku develop mobile applications ambapo mpaka kufikia sasa amekwisha develop application zisizopungua tisa zinazojulikana kimataifa ikiwemo Wordbook-application ya kamusi.Pia kuna application ya World sport maalumu kwa ajili ya wapenzi wa soccer.


       Wordbook ni kati ya application zake zenye mafanikio makubwa sana katika moja ya store kubwa kabisa ya mobile applications duniani,Nokia Ovi store.Wordbook peke yake inamuingizia karibu dollar 1.25 za kimarekani kwa kila download na mpka kufikia julai mwaka 2012 tayari application hiyo ilikuwa imeishakuwa downloaded mara 300,000 hivyo kumuingizia zaidi ya dollar za kimarekani 375,000 (sawa na Tsh million 675,000,000).Application ya wordbook imekuwa downloaded zaidi katika bara la Asia.Kwa maneno yake mwenyewe hivi karibuni amesema application ya Wordbook ni application ya tatu duniani kwa kuwa downloaded zaidi kwenye Ovi Store.
      Nyota ya Abdu ilianza kuoneka pale Nokia walipoendesha mafunzo kwa ajili ya waendelezaji wa software (software developers) nchini Uganda.Baada ya hapo alianza kutengeneza application zake mwenyewe ambazo Nokia walivutiwa nazo na kukubali kufanya naye kazi kupitia Ovi store.
     Inakadiriwa kuwa kufikia mwezi julai mwaka huu,Ssekalala alikuwa na kiasi cha dollar za kimarekani 500,000 (sawa na Tsh million 900,000,000) katika akiba na anatabiliwa kuwa mmoja kati ya matajiri wakubwa ambao ni self-made nchini Uganda kufikia mwaka kesho.

Unaweza pia ku-share hii habari na rafiki zako
    
      

      There are many ways to define a man and different people have different definitions,
so i am going to skip all that crap and tell you  the only thing you need to know.



Trait No.1: He is strong
    A real man doesn't cry, doesn't moan, doesn't complains, doesn't get sick and doesn't
need to go to the doctor everytime he sneezes.A real man makes decisions and lives with
the consequences.
    A real man accepts responsibilities for his actions and his words. He is firm.If a spider scares
you,you'll never be a rel man

Trait No.2: He is focused
    A real man knows the difference between what's important and what isn't.He doesn't waste time on stupidities that don't bring him no profit.A real man focuses on power,money and family.He doesn't focus on sex.Sex comes as a result of having power,money and a wife (and if she doesn't satisfy you,there are plenty of other women who will,especialy when you are powerful and rich).
NB:The word 'sex' is not an indecent word.You will find it in all dictionaries

Trait No.3: Knows the importance of family
   A real man knows that his children are God's gift and should be treated as such,ever if he disciplines them from time to time.

Trait No.4: He doesn't gossip
   A man keeps his mouth shut.He shelters information and rations his words.He does not reveal more than he has to and doesn't engage in girlie talk about others.

Trait No.5: He keeps his word
   When a rel man makes a promise,he keeps it.If he can't keep a promise,he doesn't give his word.He would rather die than break his word.

Trait No.6: He strives to be a role model
   A real man respect him self and others all times, unless,of course,he has disrespected. He sets  an
example for his disciples, and especially for his children.
 
Trait No.7: Makes his own fortune
    A true man doesn't settle for handout or charity when it comes to his peasonal fortune.He isn't
satisified with papa's money.He spits on Lady luck and decides his own destiny. A real man who inherit
goods from his fore father takes his inheritance and turns it into 10 minutes what it was.

Trait No.8:He keeps his house in order
   No ruler can rule over the territory if he isn't already the master of his own home.

Trait No.9:He can defend himself
   You know what's missing in the world today? Leaders who have had to fight their way up to the top.No joking look at the head of any business that's circling the toilet bowl,and I'll show you a boss whose parents' power and money kept him from ever learning things the hard way

Courtesy of askmen.com

         This may sound lunatic to anyone who read the heading alone before going deep into it but its something noble that I have realized as I was thinking of the following people; Mother Theresa,Martin Luther king,Jr,Tupac Shakur,Steve Jobs,Albert Einstein,Bob Marley,Mwl Julius Nyerere,Princess Diana e.t.c.Wonder what these people have in common?THEY ARE ALL DEAD but am hundred percent sure that they still live till today.
          I believe Martin Luther king,Jr still lives in many afro-americans' hearts till today.I believe too that Tupac Shakur still exists in the hearts of many hip hop fans and so is Steve Jobs in the hearts of techies and technology enthusiast including me.Then I learnt a big thing; USE THE MOST OF YOUR ABILITY TO DO WHAT YOU DO BEST AND IF IT IS NOT JUST FOR YOUR CAUSE BUT FOR MAJORITY'S BENEFIT,YOU MIGHT TOUCH THE LIVES OF MANY AND YOU WILL CONTINUE TO LIVE IN THEIR HEARTS EVEN AFTER YOU DIE.

         Breaking up is never an easy task for anyone,even for the one dumping.It is so difficult that some people even prefer to remain in useless relationships.
         Although every one is always quick to offer advice on how to attract a good mate or maintain a relationship,the art of dumping is a neglected area.As the result many lack the tact of breaking up in style and opt for cheap and cowardly actions like via  e-mail,by sms,or having a friend do the dirty work.

         After I figured out the need,I turned to a certain useful source and I obtained some very tactful suggestions for a successful dumping which will help you remain 'the good guy'.Here are the suggestions;
         *Cruelty is not an option and face to face dumping is the most effective and fair way to end a relationship
         *Starting a face to face break up conversation with your soon to be ex with the line,"It's not you,it's me" can be corny if not properly used but very effective in the hands of an expert who is poetic and good with words
         *Blame everything on yourself or on the relationship itself.Don't blame him/her.So if they are cheating,instead of saying,"I'm breaking up with you because you're a cheating jerk"say something like,"I feel insecure all the time and need sometime alone to regain my confidence".Make yourself into the victim;it gives the other person a false sense of confidence.
         *If you choose to be honest,be gentle and never use the line,"we can still be friends".We all know that this line is said just to make the other person feel better.Telling an ex,"we can still be friends".sends that person a mixed signals and may cause that person to stick around
         *To understand their feelings and let them tell you the reason you're wrong.In the end though,remain firm,and keep them aware that itssomething you need to do  for yyourself
         *Don't take any joy in what you're doing even if that person deserves it.Infact,try to look as miserable as possible so that they have some comfort in knowing that it was not easy for you to leave them,annd try to be compassionate.
         *They might be angry with you considering how much they cared about you.This is expected but stick to the plan;don't back down with few tears.
     The coward's way out is to start a fight or do something that will anger your significant other so much that he/she will be the one to dump you and thus you'll avoid being the bad guy who ended the relationship

Source:The Standard Magazine

         While living it is important for everybody to learn when to talk and when to stay silent.They say its far better to stay silent than to talk when the time is not right.Here are ten opportunities when you don't want to miss a chance to stay quite;

        1.When someone is grieving,opt to give your presence and a hug.

        2.When you are angry

        3.When you are tempted to gossip

        4.When you want to criticize

        5.When you are about to lie

        6.When someone else is speaking

        7.When you've already talked too much

        8.When you know that what you are  going to say will hurt instead of help

        9.When a friend needs you to simply listen

      10.When you want to argue with your parent or spouse

       I once came across the most powerful speech I have ever heard in my life and this speech was given by a charismatic leader,co-founder of the cutting-edge technology company called Apple who died few years ago called STEVE JOBS.He titled his speech "how to live before you die" as he was addressing to Stanford University graduates on June 12,2005.I wish to write  the whole speech but trust me,it is as long as it can be so,I decided to extract some useful parts of the speech and share it with you.

       He says,"You have to trust in something-your gut,destiny,life,karma,whatever.This approach  has never let me down,and it has made all the difference in my life".He continues,"Your work is going to fill a large part of your life,the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work.And the only way to do great work is to love what you  do.If you haven't found it yet,keep looking.Don't settle.As with all matters of the heart,you will know when you find it.And likely any great relationship,it just gets better and better as the years roll on.So keep looking until you find it.
      "When I was 17,I read a quote that went something like,'if you live each day as if it was your last,someday you'll most certainly be right'.It made an impression on me and since then,for the past 33years,I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself; "if today were the last day of my life,would In want to do what am about to do today?and whenever the answer has been "no" for too many days in the row.I know I need to change something."
      " Remembering that I'll be be dead soon is the most important tool that I've ever encountered to help me make big choices in life.Because almost everything-all external expectations,all pride,all fear of embarrassment of failure-these things just fall away in the face of death,leaving only what is truly important.Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to loose.You are already naked.There is no reason not to follow your heart."
       "No one wants to die.Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there and yet death is the destination we all share.Your time is limited,so don't waste it living someone else's life.Don't be trapped by dogma-which is living with the results of other people's thinking.Don't let the noise of others opinion drown out your inner voice.And most important,have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.They somehow already know what you truly want to become.Everything else is secondary."
       He finishes his speech by saying "STAY HUNGRY.STAY FOOLISH"









       

          Work while it is called to day,for you know not how much you may be hindered to-morrow.One day worth two to-morrows.Never leave that till tomorrow which can do today,if you were a servant,would you not be ashamed that a good master should catch you idle? Are you then your own master? be ashamed to catch yourself idle,when there is so much to be done for yourself,your family,your relations and your country.
          It's true,there is much to be done,perhaps,you are weak-handed;but stick to it it steadily and you will see the great effect.Just remember that you are younger today than you will ever be and hence you should make the most of today for the sake of better tomorrow.

        It is everyone's wish to be accepted and approved by the society,people around him/her and most important by the loved ones.Here is the secret I learnt from Dr. Richard Carlson and want to share it with you today.He said,"The less you care about seeking approval,the more approval you seem to get.People are drawn to those who are quite,inner confidence,people who don't need to make themselves look good,be "right" all the time,steal the glory."
       Most people love a person who doesn't need to brag,a person who shares from his or her heart and not from his or her ego.What you need to do is being yourself and be real.Don't fake your life,don't act to be a person you are not just in order to "fit in".As the inevitable result of this,positive people will be drawn to you like a magnet and if they will become friends then they are more likely to be loyal,people you can rely on and that's because they know the real you and love anyway.
       Please if you find this useful,share it with your friends.

                          

The people who risk nothing,do nothing,have nothing,are nothing.
They may avoid suffering and sorrow but they cannot learn,feel,change,grow,love,live.But risk must be taken,because the greatest hazard in life is to risk NOTHING.

                                   ONLY A PERSON WHO RISKS IS FREE.
-To love is to risk not loved in return.
-To live is to risk dying.
-To try is to risk failure
                              If you don't dare to risk,you'll never get ahead.You'll never solve your problem.